Parental responsibility is defined as “all the rights, duties, powers, responsibilities and authority which by law a parent of a child has”. It is hard to imagine a more circular definition. In practice is means that someone with parental responsibility has a right to take part in major decisions in the child’s life, such as schooling and whether the child should move abroad etc. In addition, parental responsibility is defined as “rights of custody” for the purposes of the Hague Convention on Child Abduction, which applies in all European Union, many Western and some other countries. This means that someone can only take the child permanently out of England and Wales with permission of all other people with parental responsibility or with permission of the court.
The mother always has parental responsibility.
Below you will find information for adults other than the mother, whether they have parental responsibility and, if not, how they can acquire it.
In addition to the ways to obtain parental responsibility as set out below, anyone who has acquired parental responsibility outside England and Wales while the child was habitually resident there keeps parental responsibility under article 16 of the 1996 Hague Convention on Parental Responsibility and the Protection of Children.
The child’s father has parental responsibility:
Of course a father can only get parental responsibility in any of these ways if he is the legal father, but not if he is only a the biological father through being a sperm donor or simply the mother’s boyfriend. There is a presumption that the mother’s husband at the time of birth is the father, but this can be rebutted through evidence, except in cases of artificial insemination.
In English law a woman who is not the biological mother of the child can be legally the other parent of a child if she is the mother’s same-sex partner in a lesbian relationship (see legal paternity after sperm donation). Such a woman has parental responsibility in a very similar way as a legal father. This does not apply to an adoptive mother or a woman who is the mother of a child after a parental order made after surrogacy. Such a mother always has parental responsibility. The child’s “other parent” has parental responsibility:
Please check that the mother’s partner does indeed have the status of a parent in the first place. This only applies for children who were conceived artificially after 6 April 2009.
If the court makes a residence order in favour of a person or persons they automatically have parental responsibility while that residence order is in force, even if they do not otherwise have parental responsibility. This is the only way that a stepparent who is not married or the civil partner of the parent with whom the child lives could get parental responsibility.
Stepparents, i.e. the spouse or the civil partner of the father or the mother, can get parental responsibility by a similar parental responsibility agreement or by court order. This only works for spouses and same-sex civil partners and not for cohabitants. All parents who already have parental responsibility must sign the agreement. Therefore if the father already has parental responsibility and he refuses to sign, the mother’s spouse or civil partner would need to apply to the court for a parental responsibility order. The father’s (and the "second parent's") spouse or civil partner can of course also get parental responsibility in the same way.
If you and your partner are not married or civil partners and do not plan to change that, the only way for both to get parental responsibility is if the court makes a joint residence order.
For all three parental responsibility agreements there are prescribed forms that can be downloaded from the internet:
There are full instructions about how to complete the form on the back of the form. Unmarried fathers, co-mothers and stepparents can lose the parental responsibility only by court order, but this is extremely rare.
It is always best to try to avoid court proceedings of course because the judge can only make an order. An order does not enforce itself and if someone does not comply with the order or takes a “work-to-rule” approach, matters can continue to be difficult. There will also be issues arising in the future of a child’s life where parents have to work together.
Mediation is an inexpensive way to find solutions outside the court system and it is particularly suitable to resolve issues about children. Our support page has a wealth of resources for parents to help them to parent together successfully, nurturing their child.
For advice on your specific circumstances contact Andrea Woelke at Alternative Family Law: ring us on 020 7407 4007 (+44 20 7407 4007 from abroad) or email us (stating your full name, the full name of the other person in your case and your telephone number on which we can call you).
Please note that we do not have a contract to take on cases on legal aid. To check if you may be able to get legal aid please go to this government website and contact a solicitor who has a legal aid contract.
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